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A letter to my white partner after our daughter said she wishes she were white

I need you to step up. Race is a thing. That could not be more obvious today. You don’t need to be a social justice warrior, but you need to be my coparent. You have children of color. You can’t truly believe that our daughter is the one person in…

Children And Racism

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A letter to my white partner after our daughter said she wishes she were white
A letter to my white partner after our daughter said she wishes she were white
Children And Racism

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Jan 13, 2021

The Lottery Of Our Life

The dispassionate and ritualized murder of Tess Hutchinson in Shirley Jackson’s “The Lottery” (1948) is reminiscent of other disturbing works of literature, such as The Hunger Games, The Long Walk, Battle Royale, etc. At the same time, the events of the short story bring to mind “natural” killings, like those…

Inequity

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The Lottery Of Our Life
The Lottery Of Our Life
Inequity

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Aug 12, 2020

I’m just going to say this: The truth about Psychology Today

Dear Psychology Today, that was the last straw. After the lynching of George Floyd was splattered all over our screens, everyone, everyone, put out some sort of statement, even if absolutely disingenuous and performative (aka complete BS). Everyone at least pretended to care about racism (as if they were just…

Black Minds Matter

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I’m just going to say this: The truth about Psychology Today
I’m just going to say this: The truth about Psychology Today
Black Minds Matter

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Jun 1, 2020

Could you be a white supremacist and just not know it?

Am I a prophet and I just don’t know it? I wrote these lines Before Last Week: “Please RSVP. The revolution has already started.” This week, more than ever, I want to hear your response to this question: Are you anti-racist or are you racist? Note that “not racist” is…

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Are you a white supremacist and you just don’t know it?
Are you a white supremacist and you just don’t know it?

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Jan 15, 2020

Uncool rant from someone who’s not even Latinx

Please don’t call me that. “Latinx” is the hip term du jour, but not all of us are on board or even comfortable with that term. Many of us still prefer to use Latin, Latino, Latina, or Hispanic. These are still in use. They are not obsolete. They are not…

Latinx

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Uncool rant from someone who’s not Latinx
Uncool rant from someone who’s not Latinx
Latinx

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Dec 3, 2019

Playing Monopoly at Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving was lovely. I spent it with my spouse’s side of the family. The White, Southern side. Brothers- and sisters-in-law, and their children. (No “seniors,” because sadly, they’ve already passed.) We had a really great time. They are truly wonderful people. And yes, shit came up. Compared to the horror…

Racial Equity

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Playing Monopoly at Thanksgiving
Playing Monopoly at Thanksgiving
Racial Equity

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Nov 19, 2019

You really shouldn’t have

MEMO: To: Minority therapist From: White/straight/cis/etc. therapist Re: Referral Date: All the freaking time Notes: *Needs sliding scale or pro-bono. K thanks bye! THANK YOU NOTE: Dear white/straight/cis/etc. therapist, Aww! You shouldn’t have! You really shouldn’t have. How did you know? More unpaid work is exactly what I needed! Should I pay you back by sending you an additional drain on your time, financial and emotional resources? Or are we even?

Racism

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You shouldn’t have
You shouldn’t have
Racism

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Nov 14, 2019

For Whites Only

Dear White Therapists, If you routinely refer POC out to “culturally competent” therapists because that’s not your “expertise,” and you’re not actively seeking out training or education on how to no longer be culturally incompetent, you should change all your listings and profiles to say “Whites Only.“ Because accuracy is important. Sincerely, The Honest Therapist

Racism

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For Whites Only
For Whites Only
Racism

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Nov 14, 2019

Who does she think she is? Should Hispanic women get to own businesses?

My therapy fee, the one that no one really pays, is very high. It was calculated to counterbalance all the reduced rate slots I want –and am expected– to have available for folks with limited resources, often, unfortunately, POC and other minorities. And also, because “The Work,” the extra things…

Gender Equality

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Who does she think she is? Should Hispanic women get to own businesses?
Who does she think she is? Should Hispanic women get to own businesses?
Gender Equality

5 min read


Nov 13, 2019

The Lexus Therapist

I can explain about the Lexus. It was a hand-me-down. The End. Moral of the story: Don’t judge a therapist’s socioeconomic status by the car she drives.

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The Lexus Therapist
The Lexus Therapist

1 min read

The Honest Therapist

The Honest Therapist

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